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dendritejungleSo someone on my f-list had a shitty experience this week, and it reminded me how many of us women - beautiful women, dammit - are genuinely insecure about our appearance and how fucking angry that makes me. (Sorry guys: I know many of you are insecure as well, but I'm focusing on us girls for the moment.)
I appreciate that as a society we have worked hard to not objectify women, and for the most part this is definitely for the good.
However. A little-recognized offshoot of this is that many of us - particularly if we're not in a relationship - don't often hear positive things about our bodies or appearance, and it can be all too easy to get caught up in our own all-too-frequently negative view of ourselves. I've seen it happen again and again, and fallen victim to it myself more than a few times.
Over the years I have taken it on as something of a personal quest to let friends who need to hear it know that they are beautiful and/or desirable (if I think it will be of benefit to hear it from me). While of course I can be respectful and polite, if I know the person well and have their permission, it's WAAY more fun to engage in some over-the-top lechery.
Think about it. You could TELL...oh, I don't know...say, a university roommate? that actually she is beautiful and desirable, dammit, and here is an extended list of her attributes. OR you could bring the idea home by chasing her around the apartment in an attempt to grope her until she squeals, "Stop that, you wretched child!" and you both dissolve into giggles. Or should you be given permission to grope, you could launch yourself at her, shrieking "LIFELONG DREAM! LIFELONG DREAM!" I would dare her to forget that.
Of course, that's a purely hypothetical example. Out of many purely hypothetical examples. *shifty eyes*
ANYway. When I found out that this f-lister was feeling down about themselves, clearly action needed to be taken.
*strikes noble, self-sacrificing pose*
In this fandom we are really good at noticing and pointing out all the positive attributes of our boys. So why not apply those time-tested and (at this point) well-honed skillz to our fellow fans? Who wouldn't love being fangirled now and again - particularly if it's sincere?
So, with no further ado and with her permission, I raided her photo gallery and now present the following unabashedly lecherous picspam of the individual in question (below a cut, in case you don't really want to witness me being lecherous) cuz she is HAWT and deserves to know that.
In conclusion: if you need further convincing, I will be MORE than happy to point out your many fine features. Repeatedly. In detail. In person. *passes you ticket to Toronto* ;P
I appreciate that as a society we have worked hard to not objectify women, and for the most part this is definitely for the good.
However. A little-recognized offshoot of this is that many of us - particularly if we're not in a relationship - don't often hear positive things about our bodies or appearance, and it can be all too easy to get caught up in our own all-too-frequently negative view of ourselves. I've seen it happen again and again, and fallen victim to it myself more than a few times.
Over the years I have taken it on as something of a personal quest to let friends who need to hear it know that they are beautiful and/or desirable (if I think it will be of benefit to hear it from me). While of course I can be respectful and polite, if I know the person well and have their permission, it's WAAY more fun to engage in some over-the-top lechery.
Think about it. You could TELL...oh, I don't know...say, a university roommate? that actually she is beautiful and desirable, dammit, and here is an extended list of her attributes. OR you could bring the idea home by chasing her around the apartment in an attempt to grope her until she squeals, "Stop that, you wretched child!" and you both dissolve into giggles. Or should you be given permission to grope, you could launch yourself at her, shrieking "LIFELONG DREAM! LIFELONG DREAM!" I would dare her to forget that.
Of course, that's a purely hypothetical example. Out of many purely hypothetical examples. *shifty eyes*
ANYway. When I found out that this f-lister was feeling down about themselves, clearly action needed to be taken.
*strikes noble, self-sacrificing pose*
In this fandom we are really good at noticing and pointing out all the positive attributes of our boys. So why not apply those time-tested and (at this point) well-honed skillz to our fellow fans? Who wouldn't love being fangirled now and again - particularly if it's sincere?
So, with no further ado and with her permission, I raided her photo gallery and now present the following unabashedly lecherous picspam of the individual in question (below a cut, in case you don't really want to witness me being lecherous) cuz she is HAWT and deserves to know that.
In conclusion: if you need further convincing, I will be MORE than happy to point out your many fine features. Repeatedly. In detail. In person. *passes you ticket to Toronto* ;P
